10 Drive out the mocker, and out goes strife;
quarrels and insults are ended.
11 One who loves a pure heart and who speaks with grace
will have the king for a friend.
Sometimes the root cause of dysfunction is not the object of complaint, but the complainer himself. “The perfect is the enemy of the good,” the mocker may claim to want improvement but his criticism only causes trouble. “A mocker does not respond to rebukes,” though he hypocritically rebukes others. It may be difficult to drive him out but it is impossible to satisfy him.
“One who loves a pure heart and who speaks with grace will have the king for a friend.” While “people detest a mocker,” respect is gained with honesty and grace. The mocker may be brutally honest but without grace, the sycophant is overly gracious but lacks honesty. Neither is respected. If you tend towards honesty, learn to temper it with grace. If your desire to please others tempts you to deceive them, remember that a friendship based on lies is no friendship at all.