10 A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
What is the most important trait in choosing a spouse? According to this passage it is noble character; far more important than beauty, lineage, wealth and talent. No one is born with noble character, yet anyone can develop it. Despite this it is a rare thing to find, which makes it all the more precious. While finding the right person is the preoccupation of many, it is even more important to become the right person. What follows are the attributes of the wife with noble character, the keys to not only be sought after while single but also to happiness in marriage.
“Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.” Do you want your spouse to have full confidence in you? Develop loyalty and transparency. Follow through on your commitments, and resist the temptation to deceive. The person who does this not only gains the confidence of others, they also strengthen their own ability to trust.
“She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.” Do not spend your days trying to get things from your spouse, which only leads to frustration. Consider instead what good you can bring them each day. There are no conditions here, she doesn’t only bring him good when he deserves it but “all the days of her life.” Do what you can to make this a daily habit, it is well worth the effort.
“She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar.” The noble spouse is also industrious, actively working to improve her quality of life. There are always things to be done, get in the habit of knocking them out and you will be surprised at how much you can accomplish. Every great thing is achieved one small step at a time, don’t let the opportunities pass you by.