3 No one can be established through wickedness,
but the righteous cannot be uprooted.
4 A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown,
but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.
The wicked commit to nothing but their own desires. They go wherever their cravings take them, consuming whatever they can. They have no regard for others, they deceive and manipulate them to get what they want. They acknowledge no authority, they mock the values of others, they see commitment as bondage and self-sacrifice as weakness. This leaves them vulnerable. Without commitment they have no one to rely on, without prudence they cannot see the storm coming, without integrity they have no roots to hold them fast. “They are like chaff that the wind blows away.”
The righteous, however, are firmly established. They are dedicated to doing the right thing, and do not let their desires take them hostage. They stick with their commitments, regardless of their feelings, in good times and in bad. They submit to the Lord’s authority, and respect others as bearers of his image. Instead of using other people, they sacrifice for them. They know that pride is weakness and humility is strength. They are deeply rooted in wisdom, their relationships are strong, they are not too proud to ask for help when they need it. When the storm comes, they take advantage of the opportunity to grow.
“A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.” The disgraceful wife is cold toward her husband, lazy and arrogant. She weakens her husband with complaints, she demoralizes him with criticism. She brings out the worst in him, rotting him from the inside out.
The noble wife embodies right living. She is good willed, diligent and humble. She does what she can to strengthen and encourage her husband, bringing out the best in him. She is his crown, symbolic of great honor and great responsibility.
If you are still searching for a spouse, make character your top priority. If you already have one, be a blessing to them. What do you need to stop doing? What can you do to bring out their best? Make a list of little things, and turn them into habits.